I'm sure you did just fine! Like much of life, full of trial and error -- and the fact that you're trying will mean a lot to everyone (even the scary ones).
The scary ones are usually your best protectors or guardians. They may use methods that aren't optimal for a while, but as communication increases, you can try discussing options with them on how to both protect your system AND help you maintain relationships and goodwill with external folks. But they play a critical role in becoming functional. Most multiples have problems with boundaries -- these are the defenders of your boundaries. When they get ornery, you know that a boundary is being violated, or at least that they think there's a boundary being violated, and you can address whether there's a misperception or not.
Comment by Crisses on December 15, 2012, at 12:37 PM
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I'm sure you did just fine! Like much of life, full of trial and error -- and the fact that you're trying will mean a lot to everyone (even the scary ones).
The scary ones are usually your best protectors or guardians. They may use methods that aren't optimal for a while, but as communication increases, you can try discussing options with them on how to both protect your system AND help you maintain relationships and goodwill with external folks. But they play a critical role in becoming functional. Most multiples have problems with boundaries -- these are the defenders of your boundaries. When they get ornery, you know that a boundary is being violated, or at least that they think there's a boundary being violated, and you can address whether there's a misperception or not.