This info about parenting young parts is overall really valuable, but could you maybe use a different and less triggering metaphor other than sugary food? Many systems (including my wife's, who is going to be reading this) have eating disorders, many are fat and have been fat shamed or food shamed their entire lives, and the whole concept of "healthy" or "unhealthy" foods is medically false and comes from capitalist and ableist diet-culture whose only job is to make us spend more money on their products.
Of course you have the right to eat or not eat whatever you want, and this guide uses examples from your life and so it's relevant to that...but your post talks about food as if its assumed we all agree that some foods are healthy or unhealthy for all of us, that keeping sugary snacks out of the house is a healthy thing to do, etc. and the "consequences" of not doing so are implied.
Like, if you a stranger saw my fat ass eating gummy bears by the handful you'd probably assumed they were unhealthy for me, but if you actually knew me you'd know that when I do that it's because I have dangerously low blood sugar from being on insulin, and it's keeping me from passing out and dying. So they actually are health-giving for me to eat when I need them.
That's what I mean when I say food is value neutral and individual. Also mental health is a form of health, and sometimes pleasure and preference are good enough reasons to eat something. Esp if one of your primary trauma's involved others controlling what and when you ate.
So at the very least maybe you could add a disclaimer in the text that mentions these issues, and specifies this is just what's right for *your* body and no one else's, that food is value-neutral and bodies are individuals, etc?
I realize this guide isn't designed to avoid all triggers, of course, but I just think this isn't a necessary one. Thanks for listening.
Comment by on September 27, 2021
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This info about parenting young parts is overall really valuable, but could you maybe use a different and less triggering metaphor other than sugary food? Many systems (including my wife's, who is going to be reading this) have eating disorders, many are fat and have been fat shamed or food shamed their entire lives, and the whole concept of "healthy" or "unhealthy" foods is medically false and comes from capitalist and ableist diet-culture whose only job is to make us spend more money on their products.
Of course you have the right to eat or not eat whatever you want, and this guide uses examples from your life and so it's relevant to that...but your post talks about food as if its assumed we all agree that some foods are healthy or unhealthy for all of us, that keeping sugary snacks out of the house is a healthy thing to do, etc. and the "consequences" of not doing so are implied.
Like, if you a stranger saw my fat ass eating gummy bears by the handful you'd probably assumed they were unhealthy for me, but if you actually knew me you'd know that when I do that it's because I have dangerously low blood sugar from being on insulin, and it's keeping me from passing out and dying. So they actually are health-giving for me to eat when I need them.
That's what I mean when I say food is value neutral and individual. Also mental health is a form of health, and sometimes pleasure and preference are good enough reasons to eat something. Esp if one of your primary trauma's involved others controlling what and when you ate.
So at the very least maybe you could add a disclaimer in the text that mentions these issues, and specifies this is just what's right for *your* body and no one else's, that food is value-neutral and bodies are individuals, etc?
I realize this guide isn't designed to avoid all triggers, of course, but I just think this isn't a necessary one. Thanks for listening.