We are sharing information like this because we think it's very important to have the information here, share it with your treatment team or trauma work buddies, and consider what tools are available out there that might be useful for your health and healing. Being kept in the dark about potential tools for trauma work is not helping our community, and not helping educate our therapists.
Please approach all trauma work with caution. Please do not retraumatize your system in the search for relief!!
If you want to get more from this read about Memory Reconsolidation before starting.
The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPFP) is a guided imagery exercise designed to help individuals explore and create an image of the ideal parent figure. The exercise is based on the idea that a person's early experiences with their parents or caregivers can have a significant impact on their emotional and psychological development, and that creating an idealized version of a parent figure can help promote feelings of security, support, and emotional regulation.
The exercise involves imagining being born to a completely different family. The participant imagines one or more ideal parent figure(s) who are perfectly attuned to their needs, responsive to changes in their mood, and always available to provide emotional support and comfort. The ideal parent figure is depicted as being consistently present and stable, able to provide physical contact when desired and space when needed, and always happy to provide whatever support is necessary.
The protocol is typically conducted in a quiet, relaxing environment and is sometimes accompanied by soothing music or calming sounds. Participants are guided through a series of visualizations, imagining specific scenarios in which the ideal parent figure responds to their needs and provides emotional support.
The 5 base scenarios are:
Research suggests (2017, below) that the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol can be an effective tool for promoting feelings of security, emotional regulation, and self-esteem. By creating a positive image of a parent figure who is always available and supportive, individuals may be better equipped to manage stress and difficult emotions, and to feel a sense of confidence and well-being.
Overall, the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is a useful tool for those looking to explore and improve their emotional well-being, particularly those who have experienced challenging childhood experiences or who struggle with feelings of insecurity or self-doubt.
Plural systems may additionally find this visualization helpful if they do not have good role-models for how to care for their youngest system members. They may use their ideal parents from the visualization as role-models to help inform changes they may make in reparenting their own system members.
IPFP can lead to spontaneous memory reconsolidation (MR).
It's best to approach MR with an attitude of experimentation & curiosity. Maybe something will "Click" — otherwise you'll have an interesting experience and perhaps learn something about yourself.
To get more reliable memory reconsolidation:
There is no guarantee that this visualization technique will help anyone in particular and it can theoretically be retraumatizing if not prepared for it. We suggest bringing the idea of using it to one's professional team and using it in conjunction with appropriate supports in-place.
Article created by Crisses with ChatGPT support. Based on Daniel Brown & David Elliott's IPFP and on modifications to it by Alun Parry (affiliate link).