Kinhost dot Org
Comments

Main-BornMultiple-20230422T090437

The answer is that most "singular" people are on one side of a spectrum of plurality, and others are at the other end of that spectrum — and that trauma is another spectrum/continuum, and there are experiences where both intersect, and places they do not.

IFS theory and Jungian psychology posit that everyone is — to some degree — plural. Jung was plural, so his pushing plurality to everyone is interestingly pluralcentric. Schwartz of IFS theory puts out there a lot of information about parts work for singular folks but it breaks spectacularly for actual plural folks who have individual system member autonomy and can switch fronts.

See our video here or at least pop over and look at the diagrams on the screen at the start & end of the video for the range of plural experiences mapped out, and the range of headmate origins mapped out — as per our understanding at the time and with the caveat that of course we don't know or encompass everything it's to make a point that there's actually an understandable framework of common experiences that tie together the plural spectrum & headmate origins.

I think the number of actually singular folk is extremely small — the tiny tip of a bell curve in which most folk are somewhere in the middle — in the Schwartz realm of IFS — and what we call plural and DID etc. are on the farther end, with the tiny tip of the plural experiences end of the spectrum being folks who are the polyfragmented types who are never the same fronter twice or so on.

And, yes, actually — other cultures do have far more common experiences of plurality they barely make the news because they're that ubiquitous.

Also Western culture has had a war on plurality for centuries. More about that here The History of Plural Oppression New. This cultural oppression influences people from a very young age to suppress plural experiences. Such as having invisible playmates, talking to oneself (and getting an answer that you did not direct/create), etc. We are taught from a young age that such things are not acceptable and thus we learn to oppress them. We're expected to make up our mind, not be of two minds on an issue, to pull ourselves together, to only choose one flavor of ice cream, etc. : )

It's similar to forcing people to be the gender they deem someone to be at birth. They look at genitals, declare gender, and then start picking out clothes, colors, and toys based on what was between that kids legs (at birth or in a sonogram). The programming starts even before a child is born. We're handed role models who are pretending to be one person, shown baby cartoons of one person, read board books of people being one person, etc. we're not given the option of both liking to play with dolls and trains, etc.

The programming that one-body=one-mind=one-choice=one-feeling etc. starts quite young.

Comment by on April 22, 2023