Kinhost.org: encouraging internal community
Welcome to this huge site. Scroll down for links to suggested starting points!
If you're in crisis and need support (mostly in the US), please click for a list of resources.
Turn your collective life around with minimal help
The Kinhost.org mission is "encouraging internal community".
Discover progressive ideas on improving internal relationships for plural systems (aka dissociative identity "disorder", multiple personality "disorder", Partial-DID, OSDD/DDNOS, and more…), trauma & abuse survivors, and people living with C-PTSD and PTSD. To get started with self-help & selves-help resources see Self-Help Indexes (in progress) New
This website is a group collaboration by & for plurals & multiples, and their supporters, friends & family. While most content nowadays is by The Crisses, Kinhost.org has always been a community wiki project and accepts comments, submissions, contributions and collaborations, whether anonymous or attributed. Trusted folk can request password access to the site, or a SubSite of their own on the site New.
Need help getting along? Where to start??
This is the best stuff for absolute beginners:
- Check out our 6-episode mini-series called "System Trust Issues New" on the Many Minds on the Issue podcast (start at episode 009: Welcome to DID - We are not the enemy).
- United Front is a self-help trilogy, being completely updated, and available on a sliding scale basis or as we're still working on it. Jump straight to the Books
- Prefer FREE help getting along? Try the United Front Boot Camp and get started right away. This series of self-help articles and exercises from 2011 encourages your system to work together and build internal community and communication. Jump straight to the Boot Camp Steps
News
February 3, 2025. New domain name (https://kinhost.info). Will begin nudging traffic to new server. It's a mirror for now.
Latest! November 2024 United Front: Welcome Back is a 1-page solo journaling TTRPG available pay-as-you-will on itch. It's based on Decording and Emotional Fragment Recovery New. Learn about these self-help tools by playing a character struggling with loss & attachment issues.
New Summer 2024 United Front: Ship's Logs, undated planners New planners ready for order/download. The Ship's Log Planner as an Undated Planner (v3) New
- We're moving United Front & other DID or plural-related self-help announcements, including coaching group applications available, tweaks to online courses, and other free offerings to our new United Front Substack - see our latest newsletter here.
- "The Power of the Here & Now (and how to find it)" - video from the Plural Positivity World Conference 2024.
Plurality Resource with Online courses by-plurals, for-plurals. Includes a free System Safety Plan course, and about a dozen free or sliding-scale self-help & related courses. Also, feel free to create your own courses there, by plurals, for plurals!
You have NOT missed the Plural Positivity World Conference! See the Plural Events website for all past sessions. Also see the pluralevents YouTube channel.
Got specific questions?
…about Dissociative Identity (disorder?), multiple personalities, and other ways of being plural…
Check out Multiplicity: The Missing Manual — a manual for plural people and those who love them.
- Jump straight to the Manual Table of Contents
- Self-Help Indexes (in progress) New for self-help paths through the website.
- Use the search bar at the top of the site.
- See if Kinny Bot, the little bubble at the bottom of the site, has any interesting answers for you.
For singular folks who have seen too many movies…
Are you new to the whole idea of DID or plurality? Not sure what to believe? Listen to Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems New.
Prefer listening? Problems between headmates?
Try the Many Minds on the Issue podcast. New! Full list of podcast transcripts New.
Of special interest — check out our 6-episode mini-series on System Trust Issues New.
Latest Episodes:
- Law of Attraction Retrospective (026) New - September 11, 2024
Revisiting and reviewing a motivational tool we've had mixed success with -- in spite of likely undiagnosed ADHD -- and whether it was the tool that produces the results or our own intrinsic (and external) motivation that got results. - Loyalty (025) New - May 27, 2023
When life hands you lemons, do some memory reconsolidation. - Onboarding Residents (024) New - September 25, 2020
Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness. - Reparenting & Selves Reliance (023) New - July 06, 2020
Everyone needs an anchor or a base for exploring life. - Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems New - May 04, 2019
A lecture we published going over many of the movie myths of DID and debunking them.
Intermediate & Advanced Stuff
Plural Activism
If you're interested in plural rights and accommodations for group entities who are living plural lives, check out the new section on The Plural Movement New — and please feel free to contribute content!!
Get on the map: The Multiple Mapping Project New
Mini Multiple Manifesto!
Let's bypass making the situation worse before it gets better, skip twiddling our thumbs for years based on therapies that are inhumane and when you think about it make absolutely no sense. We can leave our past in the past, cut years off our recovery, live our collective life, trust in ourselves, love ourselves, and make the absolute best of our situation. We must refuse to hold out on having sanity until the “good doctor” can see us again!
Come get a taste of the Manifesto!
Most Recent 50 Updated Pages
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- Main: Re-parenting - April 12, 2025
When you have many system kids creating any types of difficulties for your system, whether they're fronting at inconvenient times, disrupting functioning at work or school, interrupting adult situations with partners or during therapy sessions, if you want to proactively take better care of your inner children, or if you are concerned about your system kids latching onto unhealthy external adult relationships, this is the topic for you. - Main: Shame, Shame Spirals, Toxic Shame, Carried Shame New - March 31, 2025
- Crisses: Multi Journal New - November 27, 2024
- Main: Finding or Choosing a Therapist - November 25, 2024
- Crisses: Crisses on Cording - November 15, 2024
- Main: Emotional Fragment Recovery New - November 15, 2024
- Blog: Reparenting Younger Headmates New - November 13, 2024
- Crisses: Naida New - September 26, 2024
- Crisses: Who's Who of The Crisses - September 26, 2024
- Main: Neoshamanic Perspective New - September 24, 2024
- Main: Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) New - August 23, 2024
- Blog: Being a Responsible Roommate - August 16, 2024
Being a responsible headmate in a system that's not functional. - Main: Insomnia - July 16, 2024
- Main: United Front Boot Camp - July 16, 2024
If you want to improve internal relationships, build internal community, work on improving coconsciousness, or want a lightweight method of meeting and greeting new system members, this is a popular self-led 30+ article self-help bootcamp by the Crisses for new plural or DID (dissociative identity disorder) systems or systems looking to start over from scratch. - Blog: Barbed wire or white picket fence? - June 27, 2024
Different levels of boundaries and what they mean. - Main: Background System New - June 21, 2024
- Main: Missing Persons: when you can't find a headmate, they go deep, or dormant - June 21, 2024
- Main: Panic Reactions New - June 21, 2024
- Main: Emotional Freedom Technique (aka EFT) New - June 17, 2024
- Main: Wiki Sandbox - June 10, 2024
- Main: Rescue Missions New - May 27, 2024
- Main: Here & Now New - May 27, 2024
- Main: Presence Techniques New - May 27, 2024
Techniques to mitigate dissociative episodes. - Crisses: Our Own Plural System New - May 12, 2024
- Crisses: Got Filk - May 12, 2024
- Crisses: Microsoft Travesty - May 12, 2024
- Main: Trauma Work - what it is and how to do it New - April 26, 2024
- Crisses: Brief Bio - April 21, 2024
- Main: The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPFP) New - March 13, 2024
- Main: Understanding Memory Reconsolidation New - March 13, 2024
- Main: Four Blinks technique New - March 07, 2024
- Blog: Please wipe your feet before you come in - September 30, 2023
Reframing to a non-victim, non-blame mentality. Welcome, all! - Blog: Can’t we all just get along? - July 06, 2023
If our head were a house, how are we treating each other? - Main: Co-regulation New - June 21, 2023
- Movement: Empowerment Issues New - June 19, 2023
- Movement: The Plural Movement New - June 17, 2023
- Movement: Becoming a Human Rights Activist New - June 17, 2023
- Crisses: 3 Inches to the Left New - June 13, 2023
- Crisses: Articles - June 13, 2023
- Main: Grounding Techniques - June 13, 2023
- Main: United Front Boot Camp Steps - June 13, 2023
- Movement: Group Facilitation Tips New - May 22, 2023
- Movement: Inclusive Plural Support Groups New - May 22, 2023
- Movement: Plural-Safe Meets & More New - May 22, 2023
- Movement: Building Plural-Safe Spaces New - May 22, 2023
- Main: Why do we seem to "fall apart" when we discover our multiplicity? New - May 20, 2023
- Blog: Home Renovations: Intercom or Holodeck? - May 18, 2023
Whether subtle or obvious, barriers to communication between residents can cause no end of problems for multis. Here's some tips to improve internal communication. - Main: Exploring how we're UNSAFE as Discovery for Trauma Work New - May 16, 2023
- Main: System Sub-Sites New - May 11, 2023
- Main: The Rewind Technique New - May 07, 2023
…straight list of last 500 pages updated, no duplicates… New