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Multiplicity: The Missing Manual is a group collaboration project which allows people with (or without) multiple personalities to contribute to the pages in the manual (no longer open-edit, please use the comments or email us contributions). The angle is to discuss and encourage internal community and functional multiplicity by developing a stand-alone self-help resource. The focus is somewhat off-center from the mainstream clinical and multiple community, in that there is a great deal of exploration of related esoteric and spiritual phenomenon related to multiplicity, such as channeling and non-human headmates (i.e. Otherkin Multiples). We don't believe that a young science has all the answers, and unfortunately DID research is slow and usually more focused on proving whether or not we are really DID and not so much on what to do about it.

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Sections: Introduction | Explaining MPD/DID | Explaining the Experience of Being or Meeting Multiples | Functional Multiplicity - Becoming Orderly | Dissociation and Related Experiences | The System | Getting along outside | Getting along inside | Trauma & Abuse - Recognition and Recovery | Other Experiences | Activism | The Lighter Side of Multiplicity

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Multiplicity: The Missing Manual

  1. Multiplicity: The Missing Manual Blurb
    1. By Line
    2. CopyrightInfo
    3. Disclaimer!
  2. Prologue
  3. Introduction
    1. I'm in Shock, I can't believe it, I have no idea what's going on, it can't possibly be true — OMG help! New
    2. Respectful Skepticism, Site Inaccuracies, Outdated Content, Critical Reception, etc.
    3. How does this thing work? - the way the wiki works, what and who is behind the wiki, etc.
    4. Brief FAQ - feel free to flesh this out so it's not so brief :)
      1. FAQ - Common Experiences New
    5. Self-Help Notes (in progress) - notes for the do-it-yourselfers
    6. Introduction for Singular Systems New
      1. A Taste of Multiplicity New - for singlets (by the Crisses)
  4. Explaining Multiplicity vs Plurality as used on this site
    1. Dissociative Identity Disorder aka DID - addressing psychology's more mainstream take on multiplicity, including controversy about the diagnosis
      1. DSM-V Criteria Breakdown
        1. DSM-V: Criteria A New
        2. DSM-V: Criteria B New
        3. DSM-V: Criteria C New
        4. DSM-V: Criteria D New
        5. DSM-V: Criteria E New
      2. Issues with Diagnosing DID
        1. Witnessing versus Self-Reporting New - the major difference between DSM-IV and DSM-V criteria
        2. Challenging DID - putting DID diagnosis to the test
        3. Disorder - At what point is it really a "disorder" and is the "disorder" mandatory with multiplicity?
    2. Myth-Busting, Bias, Stigma and Oppression New
      1. High Intelligence Myth New
    3. Born Multiple - How does "multiplicity come about"? Developmental theory.
      1. Modern models
        1. Self-pluralism
        2. Internal Family System
      2. Heredity and Environment New
      3. DID versus C-PTSD New - is DID the culprit?
    4. Alternative explanations - alternative lenses to psychology's opinion of multiplicity/plurality
      1. Channeling (temporarily multiple aka possession trance states)
      2. Gateway Systems New
      3. Natural Multiple, Family Systems Theory, and other Theories
        1. Claims There Is No Research On Endogenics New
        2. Not from Abuse New
        3. Community Division: Endogenic v Traumagenic New
      4. Historical Encounters
        1. Possession
      5. Multicultural Multiplicity
        1. Voudoun
        2. Neoshamanic Perspective New
      6. Dissociated Universal Consciousness New
  5. Explaining the Experience of Being or Meeting Multiples
    1. Faking DID New
    2. DescribingMultiplicity
      1. Analogies for Plural, Multiple & DID Systems New
      2. Crash Course in Being Multiple for Authors and the Media New
    3. Alone - people who are not plural or multiple
      1. Singular Entities fka singletons, singlets New
      2. Aspecting
        1. Aspected Kin
        2. Past Lives and aspecting
    4. NotQuiteAlone - multiples and other people who are not-singletons
      1. Multiples
        1. Medians New
      2. Otherkin
      3. Channelers
      4. Walk-Ins
      5. Hosts
      6. Otherkin Hosts
        1. Otherkin Hostess — (Article) Multiple-Personalities, Past Lives or Possession? by The Crisses on their personal philosophy (philosophies?) of multiplicity
    5. Experiences Common to Multiples
      1. The Signs You Missed New - growing up multiple/plural
        1. Singletsona: blending in with singular society New
      2. Why do we seem to "fall apart" when we discover our multiplicity? New
      3. Inconsistent Memories
        1. Loss of common event memories - for example all birthdays, holiday celebrations, etc. which most people find memorable.
        2. Losing Time
      4. Sleep Disturbances - nightmares, sleep-walking, etc.
        1. Insomnia
      5. Feeling mechanical or robotic
      6. Numbness and detachment
      7. Empathy - (Article) experiencing or taking on other people's feelings by The Crisses
    6. Dealing with Multiples
      1. How dangerous are Multiples? New
      2. How can you tell when a multiple switches? New
      3. Etiquette
        1. Courtesy
        2. Naming names
        3. Getting to know you
        4. Stranger in the house
        5. Telling the differences
        6. Making requests
      4. Identity
        1. Transgender and Sexual Orientation
    7. Technicalities
      1. What label fits?
      2. Polyfragmented System Notes New
      3. Cross-gendered Residents
      4. As Inside So Outside
      5. Do multiples exist? — What's all the controversy about multiplicity?
      6. Uncooperative residents
      7. Full Merging, Unification, Alter Integration — Terminology, Controversy, & Issues
        1. Merging Loss (was Integration Loss) - losing someone you love to merges or unification.
      8. Why are some people multiple?
  6. Functional or Healthy Multiplicity New — Becoming Orderly
    1. Help! We're new to this. New
    2. Working on Work-Life Skills: plurals on the job, on the go, getting things done, managing life New
      1. PositiveTriggers New
      2. see also Getting Along Outside section
    3. see also Getting Along Inside section
    4. Self-Help Indexes (in progress) New - paths to take on - A list of index pages for articles & resources on this website for self-help
    5. What is Headwork? (introduction to "Headwork" — Advanced) - the concept of self-improvement in the world of multiplicity, methods of doing headwork, and little tricks of self-discipline and self-diagnostics
      1. Countering Resistance, Conserving Spoons
        1. Allowing (as opposed to Trying) New
      2. Presence Techniques New
        1. expanding time awareness New
        2. Grounding Techniques
        3. Mindfulness Meditation New
      3. Communication Techniques - several techniques to help you communicate within your system
        1. Talking Out Loud Tips New
        2. What is co-awareness?
        3. What is co-consciousness? New
        4. Building Co-consciousness New
        5. Litmus Test
        6. Pendulum Method New
        7. Implementation Intentions — self-programming, program constructs, alarms, positive triggers
      4. House Rules
        1. Internal Discipline - how to enforce the House Rules, and keep the peace.
      5. Memory work - digging for and recovering lost memories
        1. Identifying Triggers New
        2. Deprogramming Triggers New
        3. Understanding Memory Reconsolidation New
          1. Emotional Freedom Technique (aka EFT) New
        4. False Memory Syndrome
        5. Healing traumatized residents
    6. Emotional Regulation New - Attitude, hope, intuition, emotionality
      1. Co-regulation New - helping others (inside or out) regulate their emotions
      2. Crisses on Cording — (Article) healing abnormal attachments, detaching from abusers on an energetic level by The Crisses
      3. SuperBetter Ideas New — how The Crisses combines many of their own self-help techniques, tools, and internal paradigms into the SuperBetter application
      4. Healing Trauma - Forest's Article on Tentative Process for Healing Trauma
    7. Internal Landscaping - working with and on the internal landscape as a part of self-work
      1. Discovering Your& Internal Landscape New
      2. InternalSafeSpace
      3. InternalMeetingSpace
      4. Re-parenting - see section about building a reparenting center of some type
    8. Advanced Headwork New - Cautions and Prerequisites
      1. Emotional Fragment Recovery New
      2. Rescue Missions New
    9. Therapy for Multiples New
      1. Choosing a Therapist - ideas, recommendations, tips & hints. (for referrals see Resources.HomePage)
      2. ProblemsInTherapy
        1. Diagnosis New
        2. Misdiagnosis - schizophrenia, mood disorders, etc.
        3. Educating Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Therapists & Medical Professionals New
    10. Treatment Modality Index New
      1. Traditional talk therapy aka psychodynamic therapy New
      2. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy New
      3. DDP New (disambiguation)
      4. Modified or Adaptive Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) New
      5. Relational Therapy New
      6. Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET) New
      7. Revisioning or Mirror Therapy New
      8. Polyvagal Theory & Polyvagal-Informed Therapy New
      9. Prolonged Exposure (PE) - CAUTION! New
      10. Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) New
      11. DBT New
      12. Unification aka Final Fusion (FF), Full Final Merging, Integration, Alter Integration - an overview of the ISST-D Guidelines for treatment of adults with DID with much notes and suggestions New
      13. Hypnotherapy New
      14. SomaticExperiencing
      15. ArtTherapy New
      16. GroupTherapy New
      17. OccupationalTherapy
      18. PlayTherapy
      19. FamilyTherapy
      20. CognitiveBehavioralTherapy
      21. Understanding Memory Reconsolidation New
    11. No Therapist - alternatives to having a therapist to help with headwork
      1. Coaching New
      2. Peer Support New
      3. Going it Alone: Working towards recovery through self-help or other means - solo headwork
      4. Finding your Others - ideas and hints on how to find people in your head, and why this might be important
      5. Helpful Habits and Routines New - agreements you can come to that help with daily living with dissociation issues
  7. Dissociation and Related Experiences - Exploring Criteria B New
    1. |+ (Depersonalization/Derealization disorders)
      1. Differentiation
        1. Depersonalization
      2. Derealization
        1. Numbing
        2. Loss of surroundings
    2. Fronting
      1. Stuck-Front
      2. Locked out of front
      3. Out of Control - a covert switch, you're front but someone else in your group is "behind you", speaking and using the body.
    3. OOB (out of body experiences)
      1. Co-location
    4. Memory & dissociation
      1. Time and Plausible Deniability - (Article) memory and time tracking in multiplicity versus normal time and memory management - work in progress by The Crisses
      2. State-dependent memory
      3. Back-editing
      4. Losing time
      5. Here & Now New - some residents are unable to be in the Here & Now
    5. Misc Issues
      1. Earworms New
  8. The System - Exploring Criteria A New
    1. Polyfragmented System Notes New
      1. Sub-Systems
        1. Veils
        2. Gatekeepers
      2. Size & Complexity, Headcounts, and their effect on daily living New
    2. Internal Mechanisms
      1. Background System New
      2. Switching including force-shifting
      3. Rapid Switching aka multiple mania or switchiness
      4. Co-awareness
      5. Co-consciousness New
      6. Co-fronting New
      7. Internal Communication New
        1. Communication Channels New
      8. Conduits
    3. System Names aka Body Names
      1. ChoosingASystemName
    4. Residents - people who live inside
      1. Stuck Residents aka stowaways, lost souls, non-coaware identities, emotional parts, etc. New
      2. Permanent Residents
      3. Internally-Sourced Residents New
        1. Source Person
        2. "Birth Spirit" or "Body Spirit" or “Core” or "Original"
        3. Split lines
      4. Externally-Sourced Residents: fictives, factives, introjects, internalized source, etc. New
        1. Calling Person
        2. Walk-Ins
        3. Introjects New
          1. Internalized Abusers
          2. Internalized Caregivers
        4. Fictives New
        5. Factives New
        6. Analogs - Chaos and quantum physics and alternate time lines, oh my!
      5. Alters (aka splits)
      6. Core Personality - the "central" resident
      7. Host Personality - the "body operator"
      8. Guardians and Protectors
      9. Rebels New
      10. Child Alters, System Kids, sometimes "Littles"
      11. Non-Human Alters New
      12. Fragments
    5. Internal Landscapes
      1. Internal Landscape FAQ New
      2. Headspace
        1. Crisses Headspace Example - Article by The Crisses
      3. OtherWorlds
        1. Doltaghey's World Example - by Doltaghey House
      4. Internal Objects - some internal objects are technically members of the system
    6. Metaphor - the use of intra-system metaphor to hide, decieve, encrypt, protect ...or to transform, to salvage, to reeducate, reform and recover.
      1. Encryption Algorithm - (Article) one way that otherkinness and multiplicity play into hiding memories in our system by The Crisses
      2. Constructs
        1. Landscape Constructs
        2. Program Constructs New
  9. Getting along outside
    1. Coping Strategies
      1. Coping as a Walk-In
    2. Shared responsibility
      1. Why Not Individual Responsibility New
      2. Nobody is perfect - And we don't have to be. But we do have to take responsibilities for our actions.
      3. Self Sabotage - interference with external relationships, work, etc.
    3. Family - you know, the family you didn't choose.
      1. Intentional Family - healing by choosing a new family if necessary, even if some of them are related by blood.
      2. Re-parenting - The benefits and dangers of looking to develop a healthy parent-analogous relationship with a trusted person.
    4. Relationships
      1. Co-dependency - unhealthy relationships
    5. Intimate Relations New - Multiples and their partners
      1. Someone for everyone - meeting myriad sets of needs with one partner
      2. Partner Systems aka Multiples in Love Relationships with Other Multiples
      3. Multipartner Relationships - Multiples with multiple (no pun intended) partners.
    6. Children of multiples - how multiples cope with raising or caring for children
      1. Closets and Kids - do you tell them you're multiple?
      2. Never again - ending abuse cycles
      3. Children Inside and Out - how your littles and your children get along
      4. Advocating for our Children New
    7. In the Community
      1. Singular-Normative Space
      2. Access and Accommodations New
      3. Keeping Records and Benefits Qualifications New
      4. At Work - considerations and tips for the workplace
      5. Your Support System: Professionals, Supporters, Helpers & Other Assets New - external assistance
      6. Advocacy and Peer Support New - services that help us speak up, speak out, get assistance or support legislation needed
    8. Coming out New about multiplicity
      1. Explaining multiplicity to otherkin - Shouldn't THEY understand? Not always...
    9. ThePluralCommunity - The whole umbrella, and sub-communities
      1. Community Terminology New
        1. Plural Language and Idioms New
      2. Plural-NormativeSpace
        1. LocatingPluralCommunities
      3. PluralCulture
        1. Inclusivity
        2. Community Division: Endogenic vs. Traumagenic New
      4. FindingCommunitiesForPluralSubgroups
      5. Finding Plural-Normative Services & Corporations New
  10. Getting along inside
    1. System Trust Issues New
      1. Internal Wars & Rebellions New
      2. SharedValues
      3. Internalized Ableism New
    2. NamingResidents
    3. InternalFamily - one paradigm on how to relate to fellow residents
    4. Time-sharing & getting things done
      1. Balancing Internal and External Life New
        1. Run-Book(s), Control Journal(s), and Tracking Information for Systems New
      2. Buddy System: escorted fronts, chaperoned co-fronting New
    5. In-systemPrivacy
    6. The peanut gallery
    7. IndividualResponsibility
    8. KeepingSecrets
    9. Internal Relationships
    10. Mapping: Headmaps, Self-Maps, System Diagrams, Internal Landscape maps, etc.
    11. Resident Identification - Who the Heck are YOU?? Who the Heck am I??
    12. System Panics New - Sometimes there are internal crises that need to be handled
      1. Resident Death New - Residents may die, or commit suicide in the system
      2. Missing Residents New - Residents may disappear and be undetectable to their headmates
      3. Missing Persons
        1. Example: Missing Elves by Doltaghey House
      4. Resident Reappearance New - missing or dead residents may return, sometimes changed
  11. Trauma
    1. What is Panic? New
      1. Trauma versus Abuse New
      2. Panic Reactions New
      3. PTSD - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
      4. C-PTSD - Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (i.e. long-tem crisis reaction)
      5. Subjective Units of Disturbance Scale (SUDS) New - A easy, portable, useful subjective measuring tool, used by many as a trauma-work instrument.
      6. Exploring how we're UNSAFE as Discovery for Trauma Work New - Pair with SUDS or use for memory reconsolidation New discovery work
    2. Abuse - Recognition and Recovery - deliberate & recurring trauma
      1. Emotional Trauma & Abuse
      2. Neglect - Neglect is an often underreported trauma
        1. InconsistentCare
        2. Abandonment
      3. Secrets
        1. Shame, Shame Spirals, Toxic Shame, Carried Shame New
      4. EmotionalBlackmail
        1. Threats
      5. Betrayal
      6. BeingGangedUpOn
      7. Witness Trauma New
      8. Terrorism
      9. Wartime
      10. NaturalDisasters
      11. Peer Trauma & Abuse New
        1. Bullying
        2. AbusedParent - when one parent is the abuser and the other is abused
    3. Triggers
    4. Environment-dependent states
    5. Physical Trauma & Abuse
    6. Sexual Trauma & Abuse
    7. Mental Trauma & Abuse
      1. PerceptionProblems
      2. Brainwashing
      3. Gaslighting New
    8. Spiritual Trauma & Abuse
      1. Psychic Trauma & Abuse New
      2. Religious Trauma & Abuse New
    9. Ritual Abuse - RA/SRA & MC - RA/SRA/MC
      1. Anti-Cult Resources New
    10. Medical Trauma
      1. Illness and Accidents - Medical Trauma
    11. Trauma Work New
      1. Understanding Memory Reconsolidation New
        1. The Rewind Technique New
        2. The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPFP) New
        3. Four Blinks technique New
      2. Healing Trauma
      3. Healing Traumatized Residents
  12. Other Experiences & Identities - atypical for the general population, much more typical for multiples & plurals New
    1. Anxiety
    2. Codependence - filling emptiness inside with other people New
    3. Insomnia
    4. Medication New
    5. Multiples & Substance Use
      1. Putting off PTSD: Addictions and Distractions for Plurals New
    6. Self-Injury or Self-Harm
    7. Burnout New - Adrenal Fatigue
    8. Depression
    9. Suicidal Depression
    10. Suicide Attempts
    11. Personality Disorders
      1. Borderline Personality Disorder New
    12. Eating Disorders
      1. Anorexia
    13. Escapism
    14. Autism New
      1. Non-Verbal New
      2. Semi-Verbal New
    15. DID & Plurality and Comorbidities: Understanding the Intersection of Trauma, Chronic Illness, and Mental Health New
      1. Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) New
  13. Activism
    1. Peer Education
      1. Plural Positivity World Conference New
    2. Advocacy
      1. What is there to Advocate for?
      2. Mental Difference
      3. Group Entity
      4. Changing Policy
      5. Creating Policy
      6. Educating Professionals
        1. Evaluating Tools for Trauma-Informed Issues New
      7. Educating Educators
      8. Fair Treatment in the Media
    3. Identifying Oppression
      1. Labeling
      2. Stigmatizing
      3. Shaming
      4. Denial of Experience
      5. Denial of Identity
      6. Denial of Services
      7. Institutionalization
      8. Abuse & Trauma from Professionals New
      9. Systematic Cover-Up of Childhood Abuse New
      10. False Memory Syndrome & their "foundation"
      11. Misrepresentations in the Media
  14. The Lighter Side of Multiplicity
    1. Multiple Humor
      1. Comics
        1. Franks Comix — comic strip by one of the Crisses
    2. Multiple Moments
    3. Everyday multiplicity
      1. Everyday evidence - sayings, and pop-culture imagery, that hint at multiplicity being pervasive.
      2. Online Multiple Trivia New - like the origin of Name& as a convention
  15. Plurality and Spiritual Practices
    1. Plurality as a spiritual practice New
    2. Religious Conflict
    3. Spiritual Headmates
  16. Glossary
  17. Resources
  18. References New - Reference books and journal articles on DID