We seem to be very highly environment-dependent as a system. Where we physically are in space seems to dictate how we feel, who is around front/filling fronting, even what we remember or believe to be true. For example, if I visit our parents in our old family home, I rarely remember what happens inside (though there may be flashes of memory here and there, often seemingly shared to me by others). I am not the one in control of what is said or done while we are there.
This can apply even to different rooms within the place we currently, whether we are inside or outside, what the weather is... It feels like the outside world is nearly always calling the shots for us, and I/we(?) don't know how to gain better control. It is entirely automatic, and we often are not even aware it has happened until after it is over and we're in a different environment again.
Do you have any tips or recommendations for how to begin to stave this off? We have little to no co-con currently, as we are in a period of survival mode. But this makes us feel very vulnerable, as just being in a certain place or near a certain person can make us forget important/relevant information about where we are or who we are with, and we can suddenly feel very attached to someone we have previously decided is unsafe (because we cannot think of why we would ever consider them unsafe).
The only solution we have found so far is to physically remove ourselves entirely from an environment that affects us this way too strongly-- but these days, that means going back to living in our car (which we do occasionally but is not at all ideal). Are there any other ways to buffer the impact of environment on system reactions, or is isolation the only viable solution under these circumstances?
We seem to be very highly environment-dependent as a system. Where we physically are in space seems to dictate how we feel, who is around front/filling fronting, even what we remember or believe to be true. For example, if I visit our parents in our old family home, I rarely remember what happens inside (though there may be flashes of memory here and there, often seemingly shared to me by others). I am not the one in control of what is said or done while we are there.
This can apply even to different rooms within the place we currently, whether we are inside or outside, what the weather is... It feels like the outside world is nearly always calling the shots for us, and I/we(?) don't know how to gain better control. It is entirely automatic, and we often are not even aware it has happened until after it is over and we're in a different environment again.
Do you have any tips or recommendations for how to begin to stave this off? We have little to no co-con currently, as we are in a period of survival mode. But this makes us feel very vulnerable, as just being in a certain place or near a certain person can make us forget important/relevant information about where we are or who we are with, and we can suddenly feel very attached to someone we have previously decided is unsafe (because we cannot think of why we would ever consider them unsafe).
The only solution we have found so far is to physically remove ourselves entirely from an environment that affects us this way too strongly-- but these days, that means going back to living in our car (which we do occasionally but is not at all ideal). Are there any other ways to buffer the impact of environment on system reactions, or is isolation the only viable solution under these circumstances?