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See also United Front: Names Can Hurt (022) New podcast episode on other issues with naming.

Individual recognition

People use several different notations to indicate who is writing.

The most common is X of Y (eg. Ice of Crisses, 7 of 9, etc).

Sometimes it is written X/Y (Ice/Crisses) or Y/X (Crisses/Ice).

Using a common progamming convention for namespaces, it would be Y::X (Crisses::Ice). (Namespaces are a method of seperating data and functions so that they don't get confused with things that have the same name but different properties).

(Someone should turn this into something more useful than the random babble above)

In my case, I'll say "Arashi with input from others" or something like that when I or they don't feel like being specific. If we're both feeling specific, we're more likely to type something along the lines of "Arashi and Ms. Channeled". --Arashi

-- MRW

What name to use

Depending on the circumstances, it may be inappropriate, or even unsafe to use certain names. For example: If someone hasn't come "out" about their multiplicity to their family, it's not a good idea to start calling to, or talking extensively about, various members in the system by name. In other circumstances, refering to them by their legal name may make them less than comfortable. Some situations are more subtle than that, but ideally, you talk to the multiple in question, and try to get a sense of when to use which name, before you find your foot in your mouth.

Externally, when in the company of people who don't know we are Multiple, we use the body-name as a catch-all name that refers both to the system as a whole, and to all individuals within it. We had to make a HouseRule to ensure that everyone in the system would respond to the name. For instance it would not be safe for anyone in our system to refuse to answer to the body-name at work. No-one here personally identifies with the body-name so it doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable.


As far as I know, no one has yet come up with a useful set of pronouns in english. For example "I" can mean:

  • The entire body
  • The member of a collective talking

and "we" (or "you") is even worse:

  • The entire body (singular plural)
  • A group of people in seperate bodies
  • Any arbitary subset of a collective
  • Some arbitary subset of a collective plus others in other bodies.
  • ...

Whilst people have come up with variations on gender neutral pronouns (though "they" and "one" are perfectly acceptable english, some people seem to consider them confusing or archaic), there isn't anything helpful for plural-mind/singluar-body folk.

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